The following post is written by Joshua O'Hare, a Junior at BYU studying film. Josh is from Oroville, California and is a non-LDS student.
My senior year of high
school, I had four different colleges that I was considering: Chico State in
Northern California, Biola in Southern California, Berkeley in Central
California, and BYU in Utah. They
each had their merits and their…not so savory qualities. Chico State is cheap and close to home
which is good. And bad. It also doesn’t have exactly what I want to
study. Biola is a great University
and has a film program. Good. But it’s expensive. $30,000 tuition. Ouch.
Berkeley. Beautiful campus, incredible diversity, great curriculum.
Still expensive. Also, it’s kind of a party school which just
isn’t
my thing. Lastly, BYU. Nice area, new place, nice people, good
curriculum, great price. But
Mormons. Bleh. When considering
what my path should be this was a big factor. I had Mormon friends. I knew a little about them. But did I
want to live with them? Did I want to be the infidel? I finally made the decision to come to BYU because I figured
that with all the other good things, I could live with the Mormon thing. I’m glad I made that choice.
I have had great
experiences here in Provo. As well
as learning the scholastics in class, I’ve also learned a lot about
myself. My first semester was not
very fun. I had no friends. I had not moved out here with anyone
and I wasn’t meeting people through church like everyone else was. I had my roommates but they had their
own things to do and two of them were from Utah so they went home all the
time. The best thing I ever did
here was talk to someone from my FHE group. Once we became friends, I had someone to talk to and have
fun with. And through this
connection I made more friends. I
met a lot of people in my ward and started going to ward activities and meeting
new people that I really loved.
One of the most important
things to do in college is make friends.
We’re not meant to go it alone. Though classes and intellectual learning is extremely
important, the social aspect of college does not have to be a detriment. I found that my studies got better just
because my outlook improved. I
began enjoying class a lot more and paying more attention. My days seemed to go by quicker because
now my weekends were filled with friends and fun rather than sitting around
watching TV. I didn’t
tell anyone I wasn’t a member for a few months though. I did this just because I wanted them
to know me for who I was and not know me as the non-member guy. Once I told them, my friends didn’t
care. They were just interested in
why I was here and what I believed.
It didn’t change the relationship at all and it was nice to know
that they knew and didn’t c
are.
are.
My experience here at BYU
has been socially and intellectually engaging. Though many think that all non-members go into BYU to come
out as members, I have remained the same guy and don’t expect a
change. While it sometimes feels
like everyone is trying to convert me, I know that I am accepted here no matter
what. My friends like me for me
and not for my religion. A good
thing that I did before coming to BYU was independent research on the LDS
Church. It helped me understand
the people here better and the culture shock was not as big of a deal. I’ve also grown in my own faith because
of the challenges that are made against my beliefs being a non-member.
Looking back now, coming to
BYU was a great decision I made.
It has improved me in many different areas and I really believe it is
where I’m
supposed to be!
Joshua O'Hare
Thanks for sharing Josh! We love you, and we're glad you feel at home here at BYU too!
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